As much as we wish otherwise, a plain truth of life is that people come and go. We can love someone the most in this world, and the next moment, they might literally vanish from our lives. This doesn’t always happen necessarily from death. Sometimes a best friend will just choose to move to a different city, switch careers, or just get dis-interested in you. That’s sad, but that’s life.
As human beings, we have a knack of taking others for granted. All of us do it, and most often to people who care the most for us. In the last year, I have realized there are only some people who are worth going through the worst for, but for everyone else we should NOT allow them to take us for granted. If we do so, because of whether how much we care for them or any other reason we might have, it might end up hurting us in the future. And in a way, we have only ourselves to blame.
Often you will not understand why someone close decided to just vanish from your life and start a new life all over again. And even though it hurts, you just have to realize that somebody’s time in your life is over. We need to learn to recognize the right people to hold on to, and to let go of others and also any anger or resentment we might have against them.
I have come up with this list of four things which we shouldn’t allow anybody to do to us, or we will have only ourselves to blame if we are surprised by their behavior in the future.
Say One Thing and Do Another
As the above quote by Nicholas Sparks so rightfully says, we should never take/accept the excuses of people for not doing something they said they would. If someone is consistently inconsistent in keeping their promises, we should let them know that this is not acceptable as clearly as possible. I think it is better to be alone than to do be in bad company. Don’t listen to what people say, instead watch what they do. Slowly people will reveal their true self.
Make us Speak/Act Different than who we are
We should not change ourselves for anyone else. That doesn’t mean we should never change our views, attitudes and behavior, but we should not act in a certain way only to please someone else or to keep them in our lives. We should speak up what is in our mind without any fear or regrets of a backlash or reaction. That is true friendship. Being honest is more important than making someone else happy.
Not Valuing Our Worth
We should all know our worth, and never allow anybody to treat us with disrespect or take us for granted. If we let them do that, we lose a part of ourselves. Some people will not care for us the way we care for them (the vice-versa is true too). If they really want us in their life, they will find a way to do so. But otherwise it is only wise to stop chasing them and let them slowly fade away in the past. Often, after letting someone go, we will find ourselves wondering “Why didn’t I do this earlier?”
Talk Us Out of Our Dreams
We should never allow anyone to talk us out of our dreams, hopes and aspirations. It is always better to fail at something we love than to succeed doing something we hate. The best thing we can all do is follow our heart and take baby steps towards our biggest goals, so don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk us out of ours. Take chances, make mistakes and learn important lessons along the way. We might need to shed blood, tears and sweat, but in the end, it will be all worth it.