“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. “ goes a popular quote by Seneca. We all have build ‘safety walls‘ around us that are strengthened over time and most of the times, we are not even conscious of their existence. They determine what we can and cannot do, what we try and what we don’t, almost all our actions are determined by these safety walls.
But rather than being safety walls, they are more of a trap where we are stuck in a state of supposed comfort and our each decision is determined by these walls. They make us believe that outside of these walls life will be tough and uncomfortable. There might be unforeseen dangers. So unknowingly, and only in assumption of some ‘danger‘ we don’t risk going over these walls.
From my experiences, I have found myself in similar situations many times. No matter how many fake assurances I gave to myself that I was doing good, the fact is when you are in your comfort zone, you are still while life is zipping by. When the world is moving ahead and you are still, you are in fact on a decline (which you can’t see). If we stay in this zone, over time, our excitement and energy levels start to come down, we would feel more and more lazy and tired each day, our eating habits (and with it, our belly too) will go out of shape pretty soon. It might look like life is going on FINE, but in reality we all know that we are not moving ahead while our limited time on this planet is passing by.
The first step towards breaking the aforementioned safety walls around you is to become aware of the fact that you are trapped in your habits. These habits and patterns are running your life, rather than you driving it. Once you are aware of this trap, you can take steps towards breaking these so called safety walls and explore the ‘real’ world outside. Outside of these walls, what I have found is that there are opportunities rather than dangers, there is excitement rather than boredom and relief rather than frustrations. If you have to really live (rather than just exist), go outside and be vulnerable. Be vulnerable to your fears, anxiety and become comfortable with them. Only them you will get a feeling which is truly liberating and peaceful.
When you step out of your comfort zone, there will always be a little uncertainty and fear. But assume that these are more of an illusion created by your brain rather than real, and move on ahead. Have faith in life and face your fears in small steps. It will do two things, one is that you will realize that your fears were more perceived than real, and two, you will expand your comfort zone. Which means you will be comfortable in situations you weren’t before.
In our safety zone, we all tend to believe that we have something to loose if we step out and try something new. But take a moment and think, what do we have to lose? We all have our limited time on this planet, and nobody knows when ours is ending. Life is a gift given to all of us, and when we stay in our safety walls, we are just waiting for it to get over rather than truly enjoying whatever it has to offer. So do something, almost anything, which you like and the way you want to do and see what happens. When you let go of whatever is holding you back, you will experience what real life and being alive is about. So dream big, and go for them, step by step. If you win, you WIN, if you loose, remember that you didn’t had anything to loose anyways.
Stay Young, Die Young
I have always felt that age has nothing to do with being twenty and sixty. I can show you many 80 year olds more energetic and active than many 20 year olds. When you step out of your comfort zones, you experience being alive and that is what being young is. I want to stay young all my life and die a young man, irrespective of my age. We should all strive to live our lives waiting for Mondays rather than Fridays, waiting for mornings rather than evenings, and waiting for beginnings instead of endings.
Each day is a gift, and we should thank life for it everyday we wake up. Life is giving us this gift daily, and we must strive to make the most out of these gifts before it runs out. There is not a second to be wasted, not a moment to be spent without being alive. Because we never know when life will stop giving us this gift!!