Love and Hate – Is it OK?

How can I hate you?
When I also know I love you?
I know you are not bad,
But then why do you make me mad?

You once made me wanna fly?
Now why do you make me cry?
You once felt like the sweet smell of rain,
Then why do you now give so much pain?

I hate myself for hating you,
The love or hate – which one is true?
All this sadness, anger and fear,
Can’t you see, can’t you hear?

What is right, what is wrong?
Am I supposed to act strong?
But here I am – lost again..
Is it OK? or am I going insane?

How apt?

How apt?

10 Quick Tips on How to Make Investments in People – the ‘only’ thing that matters

Sometimes back I wrote about why people are the best investment we can ever do. Today I was thinking of how simple it is to make a conscious effort to show people they matter to us. I came up with these 10 simple points to show the people in our life what they mean to us –


Very true

Very true

1. Ask for their opinion on something important to us. It will give us some valuable ideas and leave them feeling valued.
2. Thank him/her for something they did for us, now or in the past.
3. Show interest in their lives, and look if there is any way we can contribute.
4. Respect their time. Always be the first one to reach for a meeting. Never make them wait.
5. Don’t do anything else while talking to them directly or over the phone. Give them your full attention.
6. Apologize when you make a mistake. Ask what can you do to make it up to them?
7. Show your faith in them, even when they themselves don’t. Tell him/her – “I believe in you”.
8. Share your dreams, plans, crazy ideas with them. And listen to theirs.
9. Celebrate their successes and victories.
10. Make what is important to them, important to you

If you have to do only thing, love people

If you have to do only one thing, love people

Life is about relationships and not things. And a strong relationships is built day by day, like any strong building or organization. So let’s make daily efforts to show people that they are special and we care about them.

P.S.These are not a set of tips we can use to manipulate others. Believe me, people are smart enough to sense out the fake from the real and genuine.

In Love, All Over Again

(As imagined from a man willing to fall in love again with the girl of his dreams, even after loving her all life long.)


All Over Again

All Over Again

Every time I see you,
I feel I am going insane!
You make me want to,
Go and sing in the rain!!

I love hearing your voice,
Even if I have nothing to say!
It gives me a reason to rejoice,
Even if you are miles away!!

When your hand touches mine,
I feel a rush of blood to the head!
The feeling seems almost divine,
I can’t wait to see what’s ahead!!

There is no sight better,
Than seeing you smile!
The sound of your laughter,
Makes it all worthwhile!!

I know together we belong,
And a lot is ours to attain!
After loving you all lifelong,
I can fall for you all over again!!


It is happening now,
Don’t know what, don’t know how?
I feel happy, but sometimes I cry
I want to know, why??

Of all pains, the greatest pain,   Is to love, and to love in vain. - George Granville

Of all pains, the greatest pain, Is to love, and to love in vain. - George Granville

Even though I met you today,
It feels you are far far away?
I am not drunk, yet I am high
I want to ask, why??

Your beauty is like a vast ocean,
Being with you is like dying in slow motion!
Now these feelings I can’t deny,
Can somebody please tell me why??

Am I dead, or am I still alive,
In this battle, how do I survive?
I want to jump, I want to fly
Can anybody tell me, why??

Eyes open or shut, only you I see,
Whatever this is, it is new for me!
To you, I never want to say goodbye
Just tell me, why??

You are messing with my head,
Often it feels like I am already dead?
I wonder if I am the same old guy,
What magic are you doing, and why??

Nothing excites me anymore,
My mind thinks only of you I swore!
I want to look straight into your eye,
And find answers to my every why??

5 Lessons from the movie Jab We Met

Jab We Met is a break from the normal movies we get year after year. It is a refreshing take on love and how to live life powered by sparkling performances by Shahid and Kareena. I think this is the best role Kareena has ever portrayed, and that has breathed life into the movie. Jab We Met is not only entertaining, it also has deep lessons about how to live our lives and has close resemblance to many of the problems we face in our daily lives and how we react to them. It is cute yet sensible, stupid yet enjoyable, and silly yet leaves a impression on you.

It is a break from vulgarity, senseless comedies and rona-dhona type movies that we are being fed these days, and some scenes and dialogues are just superb. This movie appealed to movie goers of all age groups and left a deep impression on many of them. Many of my friends (and I myself) have watched it multiple times. Like I have done with Peaceful Warrior and GroundHog Day, I am listing 5 big takeaways from Jab We Met…

Choose your decisions

Many times it happens that some decisions are forced upon us, or we are obliged to take them either to look good, or just to follow some norms or patterns. What this movie shows is how important it is to ‘choose‘ and accept these decisions at ours and devote ourselves and our energy fully into it. There is no point in doing something half heartedly only because that ‘you were pushed into it‘. Give yourself fully to what you are doing, or don’t do it at all. Period

Every decision has a consequence, accept that

Every decision you take (or choose not to take) will have its consequences. They could be good in case of success or bad (unexpected) in case of failures or unforeseen circumstances. We should always take full responsibility of our actions, whether positive or negative, and never run away from them. Running away is never a solution, like our adorable couple finds out in the movie. And accepting negative results doesn’t mean feeling sorry or guilty about that, it means learning our lessons and moving on with living life. Every moment spent repenting a past mistake is another mistake. So take full responsibility of your actions, and continue moving ahead and doing what you do best.

Enjoy every moment

I see life as one short journey on this earth, which has a start and an end. And we don’t know when the end will happen. So there is no point dying before the end (as Shahid Kapoor was shown living in the beginning of the movie). We all have only limited moments, and life is too short to waste even one moment on any kind of negative emotion like hate, guilt or anger. Kareena’s role in the first half of the movie is the best example of ‘Enjoying Every Moment‘ philosophy. She does what she likes to do, and in her own way. It might make her look stupid (being a complete chatterbox) sometimes, but who cares, as she is enjoying every moment and having real fun in life. I remember one dialogue – “Main Apni Favorite Hoo” (I am my favorite) which is the perfect example of loving yourself.

Don't PASS through life, LIVE it

Don't PASS through life, LIVE it

Enjoy Loving Someone

When you love someone, it is not always necessary that they love you back. But if you turn off your love because of it, then I guess it was not even love in the first place. You can still enjoy loving the other person and doing / giving your best. Shahid Kapoor’s role in the movie is ample demonstration of that. After all, what could be better than seeing the one you love happy. They might not love you back, but that’s okay, as everyone is not so lucky. But that is no reason to stop loving someone and being deprived of that wonderful feeling. If you feel that it is not easy, then you just have to get bigger than your fears, insecurities and selfishness.

Don’t just PASS through life, LIVE it

Life will pass by even if we don’t do anything. We can either PASS through a smooth plane ride, or we can go out, take risks, breathe fully, maybe get some injuries in the process, and have one hell of a ride. Do what you LOVE, or don’t do it at all. Don’t say YES when you mean NO. Don’t do something and dream something else. I call this self-torture. Don’t put yourself to living this life of torture. I will summarize this point and end by this quote –

Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, ‘Wow! What a Ride!