Recently I was talking to a friend of mine, who has been a state level Taekwondo Champion of the state of California. She was telling me about her strenuous training program which she used to follow when she was training. Among other things, the one thing which she told me was that they were not allowed to use the word “tired“ even if the trainer asked them to do 300 push ups. She said “tired” was the word which they could use only after they turned 80.
It is often said that what you say is what you get. What we think leads to what we say, and what we say leads to how we act. So in a way, if we closely watch what we are thinking and saying, that defines our actions and results. Whatever we say, whether good or bad, is picked up by our subconscious mind and and it makes that real. So saying that you are tired will actually make you feel tired and you will have all the symptoms of being tired to prove that. But we don’t realize that it was our word which caused it in the first place.
So when someone asks you “How are you doing?” and you reply with, “I am tired” or “I am not feeling too well“, we are actually contributing towards the impending tiredness or sickness by saying these words. The same goes for all the negative thoughts that come into our mind and out of our mouth, like “I don’t have enough money“, “I am not lucky” and so on.
The point is whenever we say something, we increase our belief in it. We give power to outside situations, individuals and circumstances which is always disempowering. Athletes, like my friend in the example above, are not allowed to use such language because the trainers are aware of this fact. When we speak something, we are actually laying the seeds of making that statement a reality. And if you don’t believe me, look at your lives and introspect for a while. Do you see a connection between what you have been saying and how your life is turning out?
Similarly, there is amazing power in positive thoughts and sayings. When somebody asks you, “How are you doing?” and you reply, “I am doing great!!“, you will actually feel a smile on your face and some adrenaline rushing through your body. It is impossible to say “I am doing great” without actually feeling good. And you pass on this positivity to your surroundings too. So if you are stretching your limits while doing a task, instead of saying “I am tired“, next time try saying, “I am not tired” again and again, and you will gain the strength to go that extra mile and achieve the impossible.
So one of the quickest ways to improve your way of being is to change the words you use, to others and to yourself too. When I say words, it includes the spoken words and the unspoken thoughts to yourself. Just by changing the words we use, we can release a lot of tension and create joy. So the next time you speak, be aware of the words that come out of your mouth. Be aware how other’s negative words make you speak out negative words, and vice versa. Then try to catch yourself when in a negative state and say positive words instead. Speak words which profit others, depicts hope, courage and inspiration and which create positive images. Then notice the difference in how your surroundings and people around react to your positivity.
There is a popular quote that goes like below –
Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
So the next time, instead of saying –
- “I can’t exercise more, I am tired.”, say, “I am not tired, let me do one more round.”
- “I can’t work outside because I have asthma”, say, “I will work outside to prove I am bigger than my asthma”
- “I can’t do this because I don’t have enough money”, say, “How can I earn enough money to start doing this?”
- “I am not feeling good, it is going to be a bad day”, say, “Today is going to be a great day and I am raring to go”
- “My life sucks”, say, “My life rocks!!”
Do this and see your days getting brighter, dreams getting real and your life rocking!! Do this when you wake up. Do this when you are going into a negative frame of mind again. Do this once. Do this again.. and again… and again!!